Join Us!
To attend private parties for Sapphic Spice, we require all guests to be vetted. This ensures our space remains sexy, safe, and centered on femme-for-femme connection. Please answer honestly.
At the end, you will be encouraged to list at least one community advocate or reference who is pre-vetted by the Sapphic Spice team. If you are unable to do so, you will be asked a few additional questions.
Unsure if you're a good fit for our community? Find out here!
All responses are private and reviewed by our organizing team only.
Who are you?
This space is intentionally created for those whose gender is rooted in femininity. Not as a performance, occasional expression, or fetish, but as a lived and embodied truth. This includes femmes across the spectrum of womanhood, transfemininity, and sapphic-aligned identities who experience femininity as central to who they are.
If your connection to femininity is occasional, experimental, or not integral to your gender, this space is not designed for you. There are many BDSM spaces that center masculine, mixed, or open-gender communities. This is one of the only spaces specifically protecting and prioritizing femme safety, femme desire, and femme community.
We say this with love: please honor the intention of this space so that those who rarely have safety, visibility, or cultural ownership in kink can finally experience it here.
BDSM Experience
This is a sex positive, kink-centered play party designed for experienced kinksters. That being said, to allow our guests the opportunity to express themselves to their fullest extent, we do not consider our private events beginner-friendly.
If you do not know what RACK, SSC and FRIES mean, this is not the party for you. If you don't know what your aftercare needs are, this is not the party for you. If you can't negotiate, express boundaries or use a safeword, this is not the party for you.
Try a dungeon (Threshold LA, Sanctuary LAX, 910 WeHo, etc) and come back later!
Note: Most of our "denials" are based on lack of experience. Please attend at LEAST 3 play parties before applying. This way, you won't get denied, and we'll approve you the first time around! It saves all of us a step.
References / Additional Vetting
We encourage applicants to list at least one community advocate or reference who is pre-vetted by the Sapphic Spice team. Applicants with references will be prioritized for approval.
Please get consent to list your reference before applying. We will reach out to them, and if you haven't discussed approval beforehand, you may be denied!
If you are unable to do so, we will follow up via email with additional questions. Your answers will help us make sure we’re cultivating the right vibe and community for everyone involved.